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AN ENIGMATIC AND POIGNANT JOURNEY AROUND MY AGEING AND EVOLVING MOTHER! PART 121.

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  Even if prudence teaches us that, after we have reached a certain age, we should begin to err on the side of caution, we should live a day, a month, a year at a time. The current and more pressing concern I have for my dear mother's welfare, pertains to her increasing tendency to fall, slide out of her bed and finding herself on her floor, without being able to get up on her own.  More than ever, these incidences raise questions about my dear mother's living conditions. Her living on her own. Her living independently.  Questions about balancing the advantages and disadvantages of living more safely but with less independence, less freedom. Of living in your own apartment versus living in a care or nursing home. There are, of course, other things which has to be balanced when we make decisions about a vulnerable person living in their own home, or in a care home.  Decisions such as being able to wear your own clothes and the kind of clothes you want to wear.  Decisions such as

IT WAS WRITTEN IN THE STARS - AN ACCOUNT OF LIVES IMPACTED BY 'EVERYDAY ADVERSITIES.' PART 85.

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  This was a period in his life when Kazaliwa was still struggling big time, as it were, with maintaining relationship.  A time when he would make decisions in anger, as it were, without giving any consideration to the the consequences of the decisions he was making.  Or considering it but then acting on impulse or giving way to his feelings. As he did on that fateful day when he went out with the sales team somewhere in Leicestershire.   Had a very heated disagreement with his boss and decided that he was leaving the job then and there.  Not only was it a case of him leaving the job on the spot.  But there was also the major obstacle of how was he going to get back home.   As the rest of the team needed to continue knocking on doors to make their money for the day?  With Kazaliwa, at that point in his life's journey, not thinking it unreasonable for him to insist that the manager takes him home or make arrangement for him to get home.  There was the potential for the altercation b

JUST PHILOSOPHISING ON - SOCIAL WORK AND THE ADOPTION DILEMMA. THE END....

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  The local authority and/or other adoption agencies should also take care to avoid placing an unreasonable, and, probably critical burden on prospective and actual adoptors.  Such as around who should have contact with their adopted child, the nature and frequency of the contact, and how it is managed.  Where they have in fact placed an unreasonable burden on the adoptive family.   Probably arguing that face-to-face contact is in the child's best interest, even though it places the security and stability of the adoption at risk.   It is, of course, only fair that the local authority and/or adoption agencies should put their hands up, and accept their responsibility, in cases where those risks have materialised and adversely impact the lives of the adoptive child and family. It will probably always be the case that, when parents and carers  harm or take their children's lives. Local authorities are going to be accused and condemned for 'not having done anything', or 

IT WAS WRITTEN IN THE STARS - AN ACCOUNT OF LIVES IMPACTED BY 'EVERYDAY ADVERSITIES.' PART 84.

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  Probably having done some pragmatic rationalisation as to why he would be entitled to it then, and not now. But that was a few years away. By then he would have done some wageable work and pay some taxes and national insurance into the system. So he committed himself to finding a job, and initially had to braced himself to deal with the rejections arising from his conviction.  But, in time he did get several jobs as a sales person and began making good money.  Initially, in fact, for some considerable period of time, Kazaliwa would find working with his bosses and fellow workers quite, if not very challenging at times. He quite quickly equipped himself with the knowledge and skills he needed to do well in his sales jobs and excelled in performing them.  He became a very valuable employee, and not only made good money.  But he also benefitted from the opportunity these jobs gave him to meet new people, establish working relationships with them and socialised with them.  To be continue

AN ENIGMATIC AND POIGNANT JOURNEY AROUND MY AGEING AND EVOLVING MOTHER! PART 120.

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  But I fear that this is a search for an holy grail which we shall not find.  And I am of the view that we just have to give up and focus on her supplements and providing her with lighter treats-like foods which appeal to her ailing taste-buds. So, where is my dear mother at present, on her journey, like all of us, towards the abyss, the unconscious state of the ultimate destiny; of oblivion.  Well, I am only an observer, and not a specialist observer, because I have never lived in the company or shadow of a parent, relative or friend who has attained the age of 101.  Yes, I have knowledge and experience of seeing probably 3 persons making their imminent approach towards their ultimate destination. The first was a neighbour's baby, and the second was an old man, also a neighbour.  And the third was a sibling who was dying from a terminal disease. Though my dear mother is 101 and is suffering from a number of chronic illnesses which are impacting her with pains and mobility and mot

JUST PHILOSOPHISING ON - THE PROBLEM BETWEEN ISRAEL AND THE PALESTINIANS : NO WAY OUT ???? THE END....

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  It would offer less of an option for Jews and Palestinians to remain set on destroying one another.  Not least because any attempt to do so would risk the one destroying the other and, in doing so, destroying or doing terrible damage to their collective homeland. The big problem is that, although the viability of a 'two state solution' to the conflict is either zero or zero minus, the unitary and, preferably, secular state, might be just as, or a bit less untenable.  Being so due to the fact that orthodox religious Jews might find the notion and reality of not having 'a Jewish homeland', too big an ask.  Similarly, conservative Arab Palestinians and their probably even more conservative external Muslim supporters and financial backers.  Would, might also struggle with the burden of living in a secular state which treats all religious faiths even-handedly. And yet, if the 70 year old Palestinian/Israeli conflict is to be resolved and not a permanent, volcanic conflict,

STYRIAN GRAND PRIX - ANOTHER WIN FOR MAX VERSTAPPEN AND THE RAGING RED BULL, AS TEAM MERCEDES SPLUTTERED!! THE END!!.

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  What is clear is that Team Mercedes has prioritise what they anticipate and probably know will be the 2022 advantages of investing in next year's car.   At the cost of sacrificing the immediate consumption of maintaining their, until now , superior competitiveness over Team Red Bull.  Such being the case, it would be too presumptive and premature to use Red Bull's current relative dominance, to argue that what we are seeing is a transfer of dominance baton from Team Mercedes to Team Red Bull.   In much the same way as we had seen the D.B transferred from Red Bull to Team Mercedes, following the eclipsing of Sebastian Vettel's hay days and years with Team Red Bull. But let us not allow such unknown to detract us from enjoying the known.  That being that Red Bull has finally delivered the car and reliability which Max Verstappen needed to enable him to put in, in his own inimical style, a Hamiltonesque drive to win the race.  And by a large margin, and thereby maintain his