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  Kaziliwa would not allow himself to give into to the impulsivity and the kind of poorly controlled attitudes and behaviours which had brought him low in the past.  Which has led to him learning some very valued lessons about life, but at probably too high a cost to himself and/or to others; including his family. Something which he has just recently achieved. And now, nearly as 'free' as the 'proverbial bird', Kaziliwa is now able flutter his imaginary wings and 'fly away to his perceived utopialand.'  Not having been happy with or probably been able to identify, acknowledge and appreciate the positives which of the land of his birth.  And not having experienced the day to day challenges and gruelliing chores of foreign lands.  Kaziliwa appears to have developed and nourished a mindset of taking for granted and marginalising some of the strengths of the land of his birth.  While idealising what he sees as the blessings of far away lands.  Blessings such as beac

 

  Yes, I have learnt that, while I might not be a 'devil', neither am I a 'saint.' And what of my politics and my philosophical aspirations? Well, considering politics first, as a young man, I had started my political journey as what I could call an 'aspiring socialist' living in a capitalist society.  It was the difference between the kind of society - socialism - I felt would better address what I could term the 'haves and havesnot' of the country I live in and the world in general.  The bridging of the divide between inequalities of applied capitalism, and the 'promised bounty' of the promised but yet to be attained socialism. And now, what I have learnt is that 'idealism', to which political ideologies such as socialism has now been consigned to.   Is the preserve of young people, and groups of old men and women who believe in it as one would in a religious faith, and who have continued to believe that it will be realised.  Just as ho

  His desire being to realise his vision and aspiration to make a big difference to the lives of others and his family. And, as he committed himself to achieving these objectives, Kazaliwa's most potent stabilizer has always been that of ensuring that he completes his sentence licence successfully.  Without any breaching of it and placing himself in jeopardy of being recalled to complete his sentence in the confinement of a prison.       So that he can gain his freedom from the  criminal justice system which has  condemned him to a long extended sentence.  It has not been the case that Kazaliwa, during his 8 long years of living with the threat of the proverbial sword of damocles, falling on his proverbial head and snatching away his liberty, never been tempted to err and succumb to his vulnerabilities.  No, he has . Especially during the early post-discharged years. However, whereas in his pre-and-early post-incarceration years, he was more likely to succumb to his anger, his impu

  I have come to learnt that, for me, unless I could easily or readily change my work/career appointments and demands to meet any childcare demands.   It would be the norm for the former to be prioritised over the latter; to the great chagrin, frustration and annoyance of my dear wife.  I have learnt that I had, during the time when it mattered most, not given sufficient consideration and weight to my wife's work/career commitments.  I have learnt, on reflection, that I had devalued and marginalised her commitments, and, ipso facto, her. Yes, I have learnt that, whether I am always aware of it or not, it is very likely that I have taken my partner for granted.  Not least in my taking it for granted that she will carry out certain duties within our home.  And yes, when I apply my intellect to analysing how our home functions.  I have come to learn that my partner does most of the work, and that it is more than likely that I both consciously and subconsciously gives too much weight t

  Yes, suppose there is indeed life after death, what then? Supposed all humans, myself included, really are pulled up by this sofar unseen Being called 'God'.  'Resurrected from the ancient graves, from the dispersed ashes and dust of long cremated bodies.  Dust and bones which has been caste into the air, into the disparate and tranquil places of the Earth and the waters of the oceans, seas, lakes and waterfall, at some point in the future?  What then? Would it likely to be a case of, Woe to me and to others who do not believe in 'God'?  Would it likely to be a matter of me and others of similar mindset to me, whom, I would argue, are more logical and rational thinkers, than those who believe in this still invisible 'God.'   Being 'lifted up and given life again.'  But this time, only to be 'put to the sword of everlasting fire.'  By being 'punished' for our non-belief, our denial of 'God' and what the religious clergies hav

  And I have come to learn that that, this, is probably not different from the basic life which all people have lived. As far as the routines of growing up, sleeping, work, play and rest repetitively or routinely are concerned. And then after I had children with my wife, did I find myself having to live or get accustomed to living two separate and at times competing lives.  The life of an intense and secured relationship with my wife, and the more threatening and competing life of being a party to a three-some family life of husband and wife and mother and father of children.  And from this/that, I have learnt that it is necessary to embrace and accommodate such a life.  One which requires both parents, mother and father, to share and grow their love for each other, into one big and expanded enough to embrace and secure their children. Yes, I have learnt that children represent threats to their parents relationship and even sanity, but that they also represent the opportunities for for