JUST PHILOSOPHING ON : SOME OF WHAT I HAVE LEARNT FROM LIFE! PART.5

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And I have come to learn that that, this, is probably not different from the basic life which all people have lived. As far as the routines of growing up, sleeping, work, play and rest repetitively or routinely are concerned.

And then after I had children with my wife, did I find myself having to live or get accustomed to living two separate and at times competing lives. 

The life of an intense and secured relationship with my wife, and the more threatening and competing life of being a party to a three-some family life of husband and wife and mother and father of children. 

And from this/that, I have learnt that it is necessary to embrace and accommodate such a life. 

One which requires both parents, mother and father, to share and grow their love for each other, into one big and expanded enough to embrace and secure their children.




Yes, I have learnt that children represent threats to their parents relationship and even sanity, but that they also represent the opportunities for for further growth and development of their parents.

I have also learnt of the tensions and threats to intimate relationships, arising from the competition between  a person's, mine, career or work demands, and the demands of childcare and relationship with ones, mine, partner. 

I have learnt how I came, probably quite insidiously, to assume that 'it was my wife's responsibility' to be the primary carer of our children. 

That it was incumbent upon her, and not me - for reasons not clear beyond just being 'an assumption - to prioritise 'her', the childcare responsibilities and 'emergencies' over those of her work and her her career. And not 'my responsibilities.' 




To be continued!





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