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  I have learntl that any 'normal' and/or empathetic person who have experienced breaking up - regardless of who initiated the ending - who is confronted with ending an intimate relationship.  One in which they had invested a significant degree of their sense of being, their identities, will be confronted with powerful and potentially destructive emotions.  I have learnt that these emotions are likely to be common to most, if not all persons who have experienced the break-up of a strong intimate relationship, whether it be a marital or non-marital one. I have learnt that these strong emotions are likely to include all or some of the following.  Shock; anger, rage, denial, feelings of being hurt, unbelievability, self-destructive feelings, wanting to hurt the other person and/or others close to them, despair, self-pity. I have learnt that, although some of the negative and destructive feelings are or might be common to all or most people' experiencing the trauma associated w

  And what I have learnt is this.  That, though having children provided me - as it undoubtedly has for others - with moments and times, many moments and times of wonderment, fascination, joy, and happiness.  With self-worth, pleasure, pain, trauma, powerlessness, anger, and strong negative emotions.   With challenges to overcome, and threats to avoid. I have learnt that, ultimately, on a human level, the cost of having children outweighs the benefits.  And, were I to relive my life, which I consider to be an improbability, I would not have children. Why?  Because I have learnt that, ultimately, the most meaningful and powerful reason for having children is to ensure the preservation and survival of our human species.  Reasons such 'to ensure the family lineage', 'to provide family members to keep the family business going', 'to enlarge the tribe and make it more powerful', are all what I would call 'lower order' or 'ipso facto - making sense of our

    For the purpose of this post, my use of the term,  life after death,  to ' a state in which a pre-existing sentient being comes back to life after his/her confirmed death, and retains substantial conscious memories of  events in their previous life.'  And so it seems to me, and, I would argue, that the idea or perception of 'life after death, does not make any sense beyond that; it being an idea or perception.  Death, after all, in its finality, means a state of 'the end of life.' the cessation life.'  The point at which a person's essential organs, heart, lung, liver, kidney and brains cease to function. Stop working and cannot be restarted.  As such, to speak of 'life after death' is not scientifically or biologically feasible or logical state.  Indeed, not only is there no physiological evidence of life, in the sense that we might observe the now deemed dead person inhaling and exhaling.  But, in the due course of time, whether by means of cre

  Kaziliwa would not allow himself to give into to the impulsivity and the kind of poorly controlled attitudes and behaviours which had brought him low in the past.  Which has led to him learning some very valued lessons about life, but at probably too high a cost to himself and/or to others; including his family. Something which he has just recently achieved. And now, nearly as 'free' as the 'proverbial bird', Kaziliwa is now able flutter his imaginary wings and 'fly away to his perceived utopialand.'  Not having been happy with or probably been able to identify, acknowledge and appreciate the positives which of the land of his birth.  And not having experienced the day to day challenges and gruelliing chores of foreign lands.  Kaziliwa appears to have developed and nourished a mindset of taking for granted and marginalising some of the strengths of the land of his birth.  While idealising what he sees as the blessings of far away lands.  Blessings such as beac

 

  Yes, I have learnt that, while I might not be a 'devil', neither am I a 'saint.' And what of my politics and my philosophical aspirations? Well, considering politics first, as a young man, I had started my political journey as what I could call an 'aspiring socialist' living in a capitalist society.  It was the difference between the kind of society - socialism - I felt would better address what I could term the 'haves and havesnot' of the country I live in and the world in general.  The bridging of the divide between inequalities of applied capitalism, and the 'promised bounty' of the promised but yet to be attained socialism. And now, what I have learnt is that 'idealism', to which political ideologies such as socialism has now been consigned to.   Is the preserve of young people, and groups of old men and women who believe in it as one would in a religious faith, and who have continued to believe that it will be realised.  Just as ho

  His desire being to realise his vision and aspiration to make a big difference to the lives of others and his family. And, as he committed himself to achieving these objectives, Kazaliwa's most potent stabilizer has always been that of ensuring that he completes his sentence licence successfully.  Without any breaching of it and placing himself in jeopardy of being recalled to complete his sentence in the confinement of a prison.       So that he can gain his freedom from the  criminal justice system which has  condemned him to a long extended sentence.  It has not been the case that Kazaliwa, during his 8 long years of living with the threat of the proverbial sword of damocles, falling on his proverbial head and snatching away his liberty, never been tempted to err and succumb to his vulnerabilities.  No, he has . Especially during the early post-discharged years. However, whereas in his pre-and-early post-incarceration years, he was more likely to succumb to his anger, his impu