JUST PHILOSOPHING ON : SOME OF WHAT I HAVE LEARNT FROM LIFE! PART 8.

 

And what I have learnt is this.  That, though having children provided me - as it undoubtedly has for others - with moments and times, many moments and times of wonderment, fascination, joy, and happiness. 

With self-worth, pleasure, pain, trauma, powerlessness, anger, and strong negative emotions.  

With challenges to overcome, and threats to avoid. I have learnt that, ultimately, on a human level, the cost of having children outweighs the benefits. 

And, were I to relive my life, which I consider to be an improbability, I would not have children. Why? 

Because I have learnt that, ultimately, the most meaningful and powerful reason for having children is to ensure the preservation and survival of our human species. 

Reasons such 'to ensure the family lineage', 'to provide family members to keep the family business going', 'to enlarge the tribe and make it more powerful', are all what I would call 'lower order' or 'ipso facto - making sense of our existence - reasons. 

Yes, I have learnt that, having children and subjecting them to a life-long-death sentence.  

In return for the comparatively little pleasure and happiness we might or will squeeze out of that life-time-death sentence, before being cut down by fate.  

Is, as it were, not an act of love, but one of selfishness and illogicality. It is an act which can only be justified by 'selfish self-interest' of our species quest to continue to survive.

Philosophically, I have learnt to be more accepting of the incidental and temporary nature of life and living. I have learnt that life and living do not exceed the boundaries or dimensions of which we are conscious of. 

That, from the perspective of us as sentient being, life ceases once our bodies die and are returned to their basic elements of cosmic dust and clouds.

And what about broken relationships and the trauma which can result form them; what have I learnt, considering that I have been one who had been fated to have had such an experience? On this basis of my experience. 

To be continued!