A THOUGHT FOR NOW - ANTICIPATORY GRIEF

So, consider this, how does one deal with with the unthinkable, the unfaceably, when one runs out of options of finding some hope, some comfort from the apparent nightmare which seems to be noticeably engulfing ones being?

When the long dark night seems to be carrying on forever, and the lighted and warm rays of the morning Sun, which would bring some relief to the touted intensity of ones face and tortured, anxious and panting heart, caged in ever constricting coldness of fear, seems to be taking forever to break through the incapacitating darkness?

How doe one deal with such fear, such apparent lack of hope? When no miracles appear to be on the horizon, and no sign that it is going to be alright on the night, because now is the night, a dark and fearful night which seems destined to go on forever? When a minute seems to drag on as if it is taking an hour to pass, and a day becomes like a week, and still, there seems to be no sign that one will escape the fate you would prefer not having to endure? A fate for which you are not prepared and do not think you are able to prepare yourself for. 

A fate which tortures your being, your wondering but still trapped mind, your ergo-sumness and your physical body, and commands nearly all of your conscious attention. And still, you are no better for it, or so it appears, because you cannot see a way out of escaping this feared fate which pursues you relentlessly.

And so are you subjected to a double jeopardy situation, in that you are tortured by the fear of the feared fate you fear will befall you, and probably have to endure the torture of that fate, should the fateful axe eventually fall.

So, how does one deal with such a terrible dilemma? I suspect that there are no prescription; each of us will probably have no choice but to to invent and resort to our own coping mechanisms. Of some benefit, might be the approach of demonstrating courage in the face of such a dilemma. Also beginning to envisioned or imagine the new realities which we could find ourselves in, and rehearse how we might deal with them. 

Depending on what the feared fate is, there will be times when we will find that we will actually cope with them better than we thought we would, and this is something we should hold onto, as we are confronted by those torturous thoughts, anticipating our most feared fates. 

When you do not have the power to effect the changes or outcomes you desire, endeavour to confront your fears with courage and ingenuity. Even begin to look beyond the anticipated pain of the feared fate, should it not be terminal, as only oblivion lasts forever.

May you be successful in finding some pleasure this day, as it is what counts most, and keep us going.