JUST PHILOSOPHISING ON STATES OF BEING - TAKING THINGS FOR GRANTED! THE END.

Being taken for granted is clearly not a health state of being for the either the person who is being taken for granted, or for those who are taking them for granted. 

It is a state of being which does not promote healthy and mutually beneficial human relationships. It lacks balance and does not promote mutual satisfaction. 

Yes, it might be the case that the person who is being taken for granted might have to, and succeed in finding ways to 'rationalise' the asymmetrical relationship which they are having with the person taking them for granted. 

Such as that, 'it is my son', 'my daughter', 'my grandchild', 'my husband', my relative, and 'I love them' and 'it is my duty', etc. 

Being taken for granted requires the person being taken for granted to, from time to time, think about, question and even challenge their 'state of being taken for granted. 

Probably not so for the person taking them for granted. When we taken people for granted, our tendency is not to 'think about our reliance on them, or the fairness or unfairness of what we are doing. 

The operative modus operandi for us when we are taking people for granted is for us not to think of or analyse what we are doing. That could cause the more compassionate and fair-minded among us to feel uncomfortable. 

However, there are occasions when we do find ourselves pondering what we are doing. So, like the persons whom we take for granted, we also rationalise what we are doing. To avoid acknowledging that we are 'taking them for granted. 

We tell ourselves that they do not mind doing what they are doing for us. That they love us and like doing what they are doing. That it is fulfilling for them to be doing what they are doing. 

Even, that it is their natural role in life, and that the gods have ordained it to be so, especially when it applies to women. And thus we, who are usually Men, reaffirm and seek to validate the state of being taken for granted, which has become the lot of others.

We do all this, with getting into a discussion with the people, the close relatives, the friends and colleagues, whom we are taking for granted. 

We do not ask them how they feel about us relying and over-relying on them, without showing our appreciation, and therefore taking them for granted. 

Because either we are too arrogant to imagine that that is what we are doing. Or because we are aware of the discomfort and feelings of guilt, it might cause us, and the anger it could unleash, from the person we are taking for granted.

Endeavour to avoid taking people for granted. If you are not already doing so, make more effort to appreciate the things which others are doing for you, and thanking them for it.