JUST A THOUGHT - TRY TO AVOID HAVING TO LEAVING WITH A QUESTION MARK?

A state of what if, can be very uncomfortable and leave us with a niggling feeling of, 'was I correct in thinking that..' 

Where we have easy and on-going contact with people, we will often times have the option of making more enquiries of them. 

Such as, was I right in thinking that of you, thinking that you really meant to offend me? 

To hurt me, in which case I was right to have responded, or reacted the way I did, and caused you the offence which I undoubtedly caused you. 

Which means that I should not now be beating up on myself, in thinking that I was the 'proverbial dickhead.' 

An idiot, for having misconstrued what was your actual intend towards me. 

That it was no more than the kind of disconcerting misunderstanding which sometimes result from too much hesitancy or anxiety during a first time meeting. 

The kind of situation where we want to make overtures to new people we are meeting, but being uncertain of how they are going to respond to our attempts. 

Which might come over with a certain awkwardness. Like when we are deliberately not being robust in saying, 'Hi, There, how are you today? 

Just in case the subject of our greeting should be taken aback and do not answer, wondering who the hell is this guy, this woman, talking to? 

And deciding not to answer, resulting in you feeling embarrassed and, yes, somewhat slighted and offended. 

So you edge your bet, and speak somewhat quietly. 

It is too bad if the person you are greeting might be suffering from an hearing impairment, which, probably because of vanity on their part, they choose not to wear an hearing aid. 

In which case, their failure to respond to your jovial, but unexpected greeting, might not be due to any deliberate intention to offend or ignore you, but rather due to their impaired hearing.

Now, if you have experienced that kind of 'social situation', it is likely that, long after you have left the scene of the 'social trauma.' 

You might find yourself wondering about it. Why did it happen, and why did I responded the way I did. 

Was this a case of deliberate 'social effrontery', on the part of the other person? 

Or was it something quite different and probably innocuous, in which case, I or you might have over-reacted to  'a social slight' which was more imagined than real? 

But one which cannot now be redressed, as there is little or no chance of you seeing the other person again, and doing what you or I should probable do in the first place. 

Seek clarification from the other person as to whether your understanding of how they responded or reacted to you, is or was really what they intended. 

Of course, if it was, then that can raise other problems. But, at least, you will know for certain where you stand and whether you reaction was warranted or not. 

Which would probably unlikely to have been in a position of psychological disequilibrium.