JUST PHILOSOPHISING - ON AVOIDING ANNOYANCE ESCALATING TO DESTRUCTIVE ANGER AND RAGE! THE END!

To not regress to the state of the disinhibited child, who seems to be oblivious to, or not to care about the social spectacle he/she is making of their tantrum.

And so it is, that, probably the best way to prevent or control the red mist enveloping ones emotional state, and escalating into destructive anger, at times, is for us to concentrate on knowing ourselves better. 

Is to work diligently at knowing oneself. To be aware of the things, the occasions and situations which are likely to bring us to boil, and to not allow them, the individually, 'small things', to build up. 

To diffuse them before they become explosive. 

To be more in control of ourselves and not unintentionally lumber others with the challenge of having to control or try to control and protect us from our own destructive actions. 

Which they might, at times, have to do. To train ourselves to 'instinctively' to walk away, both physically and psychologically, from fraught or potentially volatile situations. 

The we learn how to focus on the bigger picture, even when the smaller, felt picture, tries or become so magnified.  That it risks blocking out the Sun or reason, of wisdom, and wants to drag us along, in its destructive wake.

 So that we can have the safety and the time to ponder what is troubling us, to cool down, chill,  and to endeavour to resolve it. Peacefully. Without causing unnecessary hurt to others, and compromising our reputation and upsetting others. 

To have have the added task of having to 'make our peace' with the people we have upset, now, seemingly, needlessly, however much we might try to convince ourselves, that it was not our fault, or not our fault alone.

The beginning of wisdom is that we endeavour to take control of our feelings of annoyance, and avoid it growing into feelings and acts of anger. 

That if ever we lose control, we never allow ourselves the misplaced satisfaction of holding others responsible; even when they might undoubtedly be a factor in how we came to have lost it.