IT WAS WRITTEN IN THE STARS - AN ACCOUNT OF LIVES IMPACTED BY 'EVERYDAY ADVERSITIES.' PART 23.

'Like death and bereavement, at times when we are experiencing what seems like 'our worse nightmares.'  We tend not to be aware of the fact that, 'our worse nightmares' are in fact no more than everyday adversities which many other people are having to contend with.'

As Kazaliwa became more into drugs, so he became lost and unresponsive to the attempted controlling influences of his parents and his brother. 

It got to the point where he was not only out of their control, but had given rise to a situation where his behaviour, combined with their concern for his welfare, would enabled him to control them. 

There would be times when he would be away from home for extended periods of time. without his family being able to make contact with him. 

Then, suddenly, he would make contact with them. Not because he missed them or was concerned that they would be worrying about his welfare. 

But because he needed something, such as money, food, clean clothes, or to be collected and taken somewhere.

It would be extremely difficult to maintain a stable relationship with Kazaliwa, because of his aggressive and violent presentation, whenever he is upset or was under the influence of drugs. 

The constant anxiety which Kazliwa’s behaviour and circumstances would cause his parents and his brother would make them sick with worry. 

They would constantly be expecting to get bad news about him when he was out of the house, and would therefore do what they could to encourage him to stay home. 

To be continued!