A THOUGHT FOR NOW - ADULTHOOD, THE FRUIT OF CHILDHOOD

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Childhood needs to be a place where children feel secure and can imagine dream which they can and will realise in their adulthood.
And so it seems to me, that a child spends the first 18 years of their lives acquiring the knowledge and learning the skill required to become an adult. Foregoing, or, if you wish, being denied the autonomy and right to do and know of  'adult's things' until the become legal adults. And even then, at times, having to show an identification to prove that you are how old you said your are, or be 21 or 25 to be able to enjoy some of the 'privileges' of adulthood.

 And now that you, a former child, now an adult with the freedom to, among other things, buy and drink alcohol, use certain 'recreational' drugs, smoke, have sex with a person of your choosing - all subject to religious, cultural and legal requirements of your country - and relate hypocritically towards children as yo were being related to before, what do you make of it? 

 Of course, it is the role of society to socialise its children into accepting its social norms, so do not be surprised if, on balance, you were to conclude that, 'it is all right', or, 'it is reasonable' or 'it makes sense', since many of the prohibitions to which children are subjected to, but adults are not, are based on the need to maintain social order and avoid social chaos.

 And then, there is the other side to having the freedom of adulthood to do what adults can legally do; responsibility. The twin sister or brother of 'freedom.'  Because, now that you are an adult, you have the responsibility to earn your own money and pay your own bills. To progress from being dependent to inter-dependent and self-reliant, no longer having the reasonable expectation of a dependent child that mummy or daddy will feed and clothe me, keep a roof over my head and pay my bills; all of which were forfeited or ceased when you attained the age of adulthood and ceased to be a dependent child. 

 Which is not to say that mummy and/or daddy will or would not continue to provide you with some support, but, should they do so, you should not perceive it to be your right, but rather an expression of them 'wanting the best for their child'; which is not the same as for an adult, who needs to make their own way in the world

 As a child, endeavour to enjoy your childhood as best you can, while you endure the sometimes uncertain, sometimes frustrating, and, probably always ambivalent world of childhood, preparing to enter the hypocritical world of adulthood, and then probably repeating the process with your own children.


It is normally the dream of each generation that the their children will have as good as or a better life than them.





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